Why is pleasure important? And is it really something you should prioritize?
Pleasure and orgasm are healthy. It releases dopamine and oxytocin, the love hormone. It contributes to better sleep, helps with stress, and improves our overall health.
Orgasm is healing. It gives us life force, and charisma. We are all orgasmic beings. Orgasm is not necessarily just a clitoral orgasm that reaches a peak and then falls. But we are talking about a state that has no beginning and no end. The more you practice and explore, the easier it becomes to achieve these states of orgasmic energy and awakening. It becomes a bit like learning to ride a bike, it can feel a little twisted and difficult at first. But the more you practice, the easier it becomes. It is exactly the same with pleasure and orgasm. You create new nerve connections between the lower abdomen and the brain every time you practice.
Orgasm is a skill that can be learned, and practice makes perfect!
Practicing self-pleasure (or masturbation) becomes more like learning to come home to yourself and your own body than a goal of orgasm. The more harmonious and connected we are with our sexual energy - the more harmonious our daily life will be, and it affects all aspects.
Getting to know your body and what feels good is one of the most important ways to maintain intimacy within yourself and helps you communicate to your partner what turns you on. If you are unsure of what turns you on, it will be difficult for a partner to know it too. That is why solo sex or self-pleasure is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and your own sexuality. When you practice solo sex, you only need to focus on yourself, and it eases the pressure many people can experience with a partner.
One of the best ways to start is to set a mood in your room where you have absolute privacy and start touching your body from head to toe. Start noticing what feels good, what feels neutral, and what feels off. If you've never done it before, it's often recommended not to go straight to your genitals and/or breasts, but rather to start with other parts of your body and work your way around. Take your time, explore, and have fun! Think of it as a journey rather than a destination. Explore your own genitals, use a mirror, and get to know yourself.
One tip is to use breath, movement and sound. This is often called the orgasmic formula!
Sexual energy likes to move in circles and upwards. If you are lying there stiff as a log, it can be difficult to get fully aroused. Move your hips, moan and use your breath actively. If you are struggling to feel anything or are numb, you can also use visualization. Imagine glowing red lava in your lower abdomen, bubbling with heat and energy.
Another thing is the art of surrendering completely to pleasure. The more you surrender, the deeper you will experience the practice itself or orgasm.
Everyone has the potential to achieve pleasure and orgasm that takes you to new heights - you just have to learn to play your own instrument.
Self-pleasure has many benefits, both physical and emotional. There is no shame in masturbation, and the whole process can be a fun and transformative experience. Solo sex and self-pleasure are like your classroom, and we are responsible for our own pleasure and sexuality.
Therefore, I challenge you to make time for yourself and your own pleasure, so that you can glow from within!
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